Saturday, July 18, 2009

Tough times never last...

I have been through tough times, but each phase inspired me and gave me new insights into managing my life.. But now what i am going through this phase is very tough for me to overcome...I know it’s been so long since I published anything, in fact I haven't cooked anything. I can’t able to do my normal routine for past few days. Really I feel sorry to say that my daughters’ engagement broke off! It is not easy to say or digest..My daughter got engaged a month ago and the marriage is scheduled in next month. We cancelled the marriage for unavoidable reason.. We have all heard the expression, "better a broken engagement today, than a broken home tomorrow."

There are many reasons we decided to cancel a wedding- none of them are happy or easy to take decision. I don’t know… why all this things happened …why it had to happen? I m just clueless…. Just after the engagement, terms between the two families were also not healthy. Relationship is based on trust. If this is missing, there is no point in continuing this relationship. Me & my husband feel s that our daughter may not live happily over there. We both definitely feel that it is not wise to continue..Due to the same, we lost interest in the present marriage and wish to terminate the engagement.

You get only one life to live. Live without regrets & fear.. So we feel that there is no way out, and finally we decided to cancel the marriage. We both didn’t bother that what people r going to think about us. it is our daughter’s life, finally She need to be happy in her life....we can't live for the rest of our life seeing our daughter’s suffering ...so we stand up before it’s too late... it is less painful to call off the wedding now than it is to file for divorce later on. Can I safely exit from it. . There is nothing that can stop you from doing ,so being practical to face reality is not wrong....Finally Everything is over….. The pain is still raw for us and it will take some time for us to come back to normal When you feel you can’t take it anymore... Take it to the Lord! . I think that's one positive thing am doing that we can cry out to our Lord in such painful and difficult time! I just want to say thanks to God for making me strong with each passing day.

I pray that God will give me the grace and strength to manage the challenges in my life.

"Tough time never last but tough people do".

Plagiarism:

I hate to give the unpleasant subject of plagiarism space in my blog. I’ve been a victim of it. Srilakshmi of http://sriannapurna.blogspot.com/ mailed me that Anitha's Kitchen of http://anukitchen.blogspot.com/2009/06/paneer-frankie. used my image of Veg Frankie post.I post iton’08.http://jaisrecepieblog.blogspot.com/2008/09/vegetable-frankie.I thought it would never happen to me...but I understood that no one can escape from these dreadful things. First, I ignored it. And later I decided to write to the people behind those copying my images. I am sure most of you must know the feeling of plagiarism. you get pain when you find your work being reproduced in another place without even a word referring to you. In my tough time I was left feeling awful, helpless at the same time. Sorry to say this after informing also she didn’t remove the image..

20 comments:

Deepthi said...

I am so sorry to hear about this Jayshree .. As you said, A broken engagement is better than a broken marriage .. I wish that everything will be back to normal ASAP .. May GOD give you loads of strength .. I hope your love daughter finds a suitable match .. WIshing your family all the very best .. Take Care

Priti said...

Sad to know this but as you said we have only one life..happy that as parents you took the wise decision without thinking of what others say..which happens in most of the cases that we always think of what other will say. Wish things will be back to normal for you and everyone there. takecare

Vani said...

I don't know the circumstances but it sure looks like you all took the right decision. Think of what you all went through even before the marriage. Can you imagine how much worse it might have been after? Please stay strong, knowing you did the right thing. Best wishes to you and your family. Take care!

RAKS KITCHEN said...

Oh My! Jaishree,I have always considered you like my relative and I felt happy when you posted that ur daughter got engaged! How happy you were sharing with us...I am feeling so sad that it got broken!!! But be happy that you came to know about them before marriage and as you have said,its better than life long suffering! and good that you are strong! Dont loose heart..I think ur daughter is going to get a great life,think that y this one got broken....
Take care !!

sriharivatsan said...

I am so sorry Jai to hear about this. Please be strong and courageous. Definitely, God will open another door. I whisper God to make you more and more strong. Take care.

Gita said...

I am sorry to hear about this Jaishree..maybe God has some other plans for your daugther where she will be much more happier...time will heal all the pain dear...Wishing you and your family all the best...hugs

Premyscakes said...

Very sad to hear about it jaishree. You have take a wise decision. May god bless your family with good wishes.take care.

Viki's Kitchen said...

Its is very painful to know such a thing about daughter's engagement. You have taken a good and bold decision. Many are suffering after marriage, because they lack the proper guidance . U are a great mom and I am sure God will show the best groom for ur daughter. I always consider u as my long term friend or elder sister , as we hail from same place. My sincere prayers for u and family. The best thing is you didnt continue with this ...on considering the relatives or society. God has only saved the child's life.
Plagiarism....lets face it dear. We all are for u . Take care. Love, Viki.

Poornima Nair said...

I'm sure you and your family will find the strength and courage to overcome these painful times. Just believe that everything happens for the best and that your daughters happiness is the most important. Take care!

Parita said...

I am sorry to hear about this dear, I am sure watever happens happens for the best, trust god gives you enough courage and strength, dont worry we all are there with you...do take care!

n33ma said...

Sorry to know abt the break in the engagement.You should feel better that u guys have made the right decision for your daughter and her future.Its not just the marriage of 2 ppl but two families so its imp that alls well with the families too.
Take care and I pray that you and your family get the strength to overcome this difficult phase.

venus66 said...

Sorry to hear this. It's painful but it's better now then later. God Bless.

Mahimaa's kitchen said...

sorry to hear this. but you have been wise to stop it before it's too late.take care. time will heal.

Jaishree said...

Hi friends,
Thank u all for your support & your consoling words..Thank a lot:)

Usha said...

Sorry to hear about the broken engagement ! Best wishes to you and your family ......Take carep

Anonymous said...

Hello Mam I am sure you all took the right decision. I am glad times have changed now. Trust me it is not easy to be in a difficult marriage. I am in a bad marriage with a 5 year old girl and it is very tough to constantly think abt to move out or stay in. I am so glad your daughter, you and your family escaped a bad marriage. Time will change and she will be happy in a happy family. Don't worry.

Take care,

vidhas said...

I am so sorry Jaishree, to hear about this. It had happened in my family too , we cancelled marriage after engegement, and after some time she got married to another gye and she is living happilly. So Your daughter will get a nice boy soon. cheer up.

Priya said...

Oh my god Jaya akka..Am very sorry and sad to know about this delicate situation..Just know read about this and i really feel bad..Pls stay strong, can imagine how its hard for ur whole family..My prayers are with u and ur familly Akka..

Vidhya said...

very sorry to hear about this Jaishree. WE just came back yesterday and I started checking my mails and others' blogs. I was about to scrap u in orkut abt ur daughter's marriage. sorry about that...

kamalabhoopathy said...

Don't lose heart. If god closes one door he will definitely open the other.If he denies something that means he is going to give you a better one.